Readdress your work / life balance (or as I prefer to call it – your life / work harmony!). In part 2 of my blog, I share tips and ideas to start managing yourself to get organised, so you can live the life you truly want to live – in harmony.

 

In part 1 of my blog, I wrote about knowing thyself, who you are, what your values are and what the top three priorities in your life are. This then led into self-care and the things we can put in place to ensure that we are caring for ourselves so that we are the best that we can be in every way. If you missed reading this, then you can read it here. Putting your self-care in place first is an important step before tackling the one I will talk about in this blog – getting organised.

 

Setting goals

The first part of getting organised is actually about having goals. We all know about having goals, but the important element is the clarity of those goals. What are your top goals? I recommend having three top goals for yourself each year. They can be in whatever area that you want to improve that year. Generally, people tend to have either a personal goal, a family goal, a business goal or a self-development goal. If you are not sure how to identify or set your goals, then a good coach will be able to help you with this. And at times when you start exploring this, you may realise that some of the things you wanted to achieve were not really your own goals. If that happens, you may want to consider ditching them! 

 

Breaking down your goals

Once you know what your three goals are for the year, you can break them down into quarterly, monthly, weekly and daily goals. Your daily goals are the small little steps you will take each day that will move you towards achieving your bigger goals. Once you’re clear on that you will be able to determine if what you are spending your time on supports or hinders you achieving your goals. When things come onto my radar, the questions I ask myself are: Is this a priority for me? Does this fit in my top three priorities or goals? Is it congruent with my values? Is it what I would like to be seen doing or be connected with? If it doesn’t fit into any of these, then the chances are I’m probably not going to put any of my time into it. 

 

Self-management

So how do we start self-management? You start right where you are now. You’ve got to know what you want and what it will take to get you there. Then you need a map of how to get there. I try to plan what things I need and what I would love to happen in that year. I identify what I am prepared to work towards. I then break that down into what will need to happen each quarter for me to achieve them. And of course, these plans are in pencil and not set in stone, as often they may change. Self-management really plays a huge part when you get down to the nitty gritty of what you’re doing daily and weekly. For this, I recommend you get yourself a diary, whether that’s an electronic or paper diary, or even a combination of both. Make sure though that if you are using both, they ‘talk’ and link to each other. 

 

I do my weekly planning on Sundays, because this is the day that works best for me. It’s my day of relaxation, and my task in the evening is to prepare myself for the coming week. I look at my diary and I put in the things that are my top three priorities. Remember from part 1 of my blog, these are my time with God, my own personal time for my self-care, and time with family and friends. By doing this first, I ensure that I have scheduled things that will fill every bit of my love tank and fuel to keep me moving. It also ensures I’m prioritising and taking care of my spirit, soul and body. For me, having healthy nutrition, drinking sufficient water, and getting enough sleep are important. I make sure I have my bookend routines scheduled in my diary.  After I’ve put these things in, what’s left is what I call my ‘whitespace’, into which I slot the essential activities that need to happen for me to meet my weekly and monthly goals. Once this is done, it’s easy to see what sort of week I have, and, if necessary, how to move things around. So, when things pop up, I know my flexibility and availability and I’m empowered to say no, in a gracious manner, to things I cannot fit in. That way I avoid over-stretching myself. 

 

Now that we have the week set up, what happens daily? Each day I decide which activity must happen to keep me moving one of my goals forward.  I aim to complete this activity within the first 90 minutes of the working day. I also decide on a single activity that I choose to do that day, just for fun …. just for me. This is really important. It could be something like going for a walk, reading a book, having a cup of tea in the garden or something that just helps keep me grounded and makes my heart sing. 

 

Other things to consider are scheduling your lunch, comfort and coffee breaks. Consider working in blocks, for example, 55mins and then have a 5min break to stretch and move about. This helps your physical and mental health and increases productivity.  Remember also to celebrate your successes and achievements, as well as remembering to give gratitude.

 

If your health and nutrition is important to you, then part of your planning and self-management should include this. Set yourself up for success. Get rid of all the unhealthy stuff and stock up with nutritious food and healthy snacks. That way you do not have to rely on willpower to not eat the unhealthy things. Planning your meals a week ahead and ensuring you have all the necessary ingredients in the house is also time and cost saving. Do have some treats but only as a choice. 

 

For those who have children, one of the tips I had for getting organised when our children were younger, was a calendar that had sections for each member of the family, so we knew who was doing what. It detailed who was on football practice duty, parent taxi service to swimming lessons, or the chef cooking supper that day. We all knew where we were supposed to be and when, so were much less likely to miss things. It taught our children the value of time, communication and prioritisation, and interestingly also improved their negotiation skills.  It is such a pleasure to see them practicing these in their adult lives.

 

So, to summarise, when you are thinking of getting yourself organised to maintain harmony in your life, it is important to know yourself and to care for yourself. Start to manage yourself by making small little changes that you can maintain consistently. The compound effect of these small little changes over time, will lead you to live the life that you truly want to live and not the life that you may feel stuck in right now. You deserve to be the best that you can be – for yourself and your family.

If you would like some help or support with figuring out your priorities, goals or starting your self-care or self-management, then don’t hesitate to contact me. I have had the privilege and pleasure of helping lots of people over the years in this way and would love to help you too.